Men's Health

Surviving Infidelity Is Hard to Do

How Do Most Men Respond to Infidelity in Marriage? continued...

By failing to give you what you need (while maybe giving herself something she merely wants), your wife is reminding you of her own identity -- and the limitations any person has in making you completely happy. The good news, Epstein says, is that it's an adult dilemma. "You discover what you want is not what you are supposed to want from a relationship."

Despite the sometimes icky "you complete me" language of love, at least in the popular culture, surviving infidelity sometimes means recognizing each other's differences. Cheating on someone may not be the best way to remind them that you are your own person. Forgiving them is far superior.